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  • Can an Alcoholic be Forced into Treatment?


    You can be a bridge to recovery

    If an alcoholic is unwilling to get help, what can you do about it?

    This can be a challenge. An alcoholic can’t be forced to get help except under certain circumstances, such as a traffic violation or arrest that results in court-ordered treatment. But you don’t have to wait for someone to “hit rock bottom” to act. Many alcoholism treatment specialists suggest the following steps to help an alcoholic get treatment:

    Stop all “cover ups.” Family members often make excuses to others or try to protect the alcoholic from the results of his or her drinking. It is important to stop covering for the alcoholic so that he or she experiences the full consequences of drinking.

    Time your intervention. The best time to talk to the drinker is shortly after an alcohol-related problem has occurred–like a serious family argument or an accident. Choose a time when he or she is sober, both of you are fairly calm, and you have a chance to talk in private. Let them know you want to talk ahead of time e.g.; ‘Jack or Jill, after dinner I want to have a chat.’

    Be specific. Tell the family member that you are worried about his or her drinking. Use examples of the ways in which the drinking has caused problems, including the most recent incident.

    State the results. Explain to the drinker what you will do if he or she doesn’t go for help–not to punish the drinker, but to protect yourself from his or her problems. What you say may range from refusing to go with the person to any social activity where alcohol will be served, to moving out of the house. Do not make any threats you are not prepared to carry out.

    Get help. Gather information in advance about treatment options in your community. If the person is willing to get help, call immediately for an appointment with a treatment counselor. Offer to go with the family member on the first visit to a treatment program and/or an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting.

    Call on a friend. If the family member still refuses to get help, ask a friend to talk with him or her using the steps just described. A friend who is a recovering alcoholic may be particularly persuasive, but any person who is caring and nonjudgmental may help. The intervention of more than one person, more than one time, is often necessary to coax an alcoholic to seek help.

    Find strength in numbers. With the help of a health care professional, some families join with other relatives and friends to confront an alcoholic as a group. This approach should only be tried under the guidance of a health care professional who is experienced in this kind of group intervention.

    Get support. It is important to remember that you are not alone. Support groups offered in most communities include Al-Anon, which holds regular meetings for spouses and other significant adults in an alcoholic’s life, and Alateen, which is geared to children of alcoholics. These groups help family members understand that they are not responsible for an alcoholic’s drinking and that they need to take steps to take care of themselves, regardless of whether the alcoholic family member chooses to get help.

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    9 Words

    Nine Words Towards Freedom and Sobriety

    My name is Keith, and I am an Alcoholic. Nine Words that allowed me to first find my place on the pathway to freedom – yes freedom. Free from the torments and frustrations that I had known as a practising alcoholic.

    Nine Words that were to give me hope, hope that I too, could live in peace and contentment’ as so many other Alcoholics Anonymous members were living, free from the use of alcohol.

    Nine Words -that today play such an important part in keeping me sober, for I know that as long as I can accept their meaning freely, free from any reservations or resentments, I can apply myself to the AA program and in so doing’ ensure my freedom from that first drink

    Nine Words that give me the freedom of choice for once I am free to choose what type of alcoholic I wish to be. Oh Yes’ I shall always be an alcoholic, but how wonderful to be free to choose to use these words and whether today I’ll be a sober one or not,

    Nine Words that will continue to keep me sober, for I know that I can stay sober for just as long as I can continue to say humbly and honestly,

    Nine words My name is Keith and I am an Alcoholic “

    Keith T, (Ipswich, Queensland, Australia; The Pathfinder, April 1967)

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    An Alcoholics Moral Responsibility

    Alcoholism is an Illness that Can be Arrested with the 12 Steps and Alcoholics Anonymous

    “Some strongly object to the Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) position that alcoholism is an illness. This concept, they feel, removes moral responsibility from alcoholics. As any AA knows, this is far from true. We do not use the concept of sickness to absolve our members from responsibility. On the contrary, we use the fact of fatal illness to clamp the heaviest kind of moral obligation onto the sufferer the obligation to use AA’s Twelve Steps to get well.

    “In the early days of his drinking the alcoholic is often guilty of irresponsibility. But once the time of compulsive drinking has arrived, he can’t very well be held fully accountable for his conduct. He then has an obsession that condemns him to drink’ and a bodily sensitivity to alcohol that guarantees his final madness and death.

    “But when he is made aware of this condition, he is under pressure to accept AA’s program of moral regeneration.”

    Talk by Bill W. Co-founder of AA. I960 from “The .AA Way of Life~

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    Twelve Step Facilitation Booklet

    Twelve Step Facilitation at Recoveryissexy.comBrief Twelve Step Facilitation (Brief TSF) is a manual written by a recovered alcoholic and professionally trained therapist.

    In plain language Brief TSF is complimentary to peer helping by recovering alcoholics, addicts, gamblers and co-dependents.

    This e-booklet informs and energises with a process to assist identification of problems, break down denial and connect with 12 Step meetings and other members.

    You have the experiences and strengths, and altruistic motives to help those still suffering.

    This booklet will be rewarding for you in helping people to recovery.

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    Spirituality is an Awakening


    What is Spirituality?

    • “Spirituality is an awakening—or is it all the loose ends woven together into a mellow fabric?
    • It’s understanding—or is it all the knowledge one need ever know?
    • It’s freedom—if you consider fear slavery.
    • It’s confidence—or is it the belief that a higher power will see you through any storm or gale?
    • It’s adhering to the dictates of your conscience—or is it a deep, genuine, living concern for the people and the planet?
    • It’s peace of mind in the face of adversity.
    • It’s a keen and sharpened desire for survival.

    From; AA book – Came to Believe, 2004, pg. 5

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    Borderline Personality Disorder

    The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder: New Tools and Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells

    For family members of people with borderline personality disorder (BPD), home life is routinely unpredictable and frequently unbearable. Extreme mood swings, impulsive behaviors, and suicidal tendencies—common conduct among those who suffer from the disorder—leave family members feeling confused, hurt, and helpless.

    In her pioneering first book Stop Walking on Eggshells, co-authored with Paul T. Mason, Randi Kreger outlined the fundamental differences in the way that people with borderline personality disorder (BPD) relate to the world.

    Now, with The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder, she takes readers to the next level, giving them straightforward tools to get off the emotional roller coaster and repair relationships with loved ones with BPD.

    Kreger answers the questions family members most want to ask about: the symptoms and treatment of BPD, including why BPD is so misdiagnosed; how symptoms can differ by age and gender; and how addiction and other disorders complicate BPD.

    She then outlines how families can set boundaries and communicate differently in order to help themselves and their loved ones cope with this bewildering form of mental illness.


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    The G-spot and Sexuality

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    G-spot orgasms

    If you have orgasms, you probably noticed different kinds. Sometimes they feel like a roar of sexual energy, sometimes like a ripple of satisfaction. G-spot orgasms are like another instrument in the big band of sexual response. There’s no one perfect G-spot orgasm technique.

    Women describe their G-spot orgasms as deep, whole-body experiences. They can last longer and can be made up of more and longer contractions than other types of orgasm. Many women say their Gspot orgasms come after a number of little orgasms, when they are as turned on as they can get. Sometimes women discover this by surprise, when they happen to devote a little more time to sex. Some say Gspot orgasms are the most powerful they’ve ever had, and experience them as rolling waves of total sexual release.

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    Rageaholics Anonymous

    Gaining in Humility

    Many recovering people may find that they are drifting into antisocial rage outbursts. Rageaholics Anonymous has developed a 12 Step Fellowship based on Alcoholics Anonymous principles. This is one excerpt from their website.

    We thought “conditions” incited our anger, and when we tried to correct these conditions and found that we couldn’t to our entire satisfaction, our anger went out of hand and we became rageaholics. It never occurred to us that we needed to change ourselves to meet conditions, whatever they were.

    But in RA we slowly learned that something had to be done about our vengeful resentments, self-pity, and unwarranted pride. We had to see that every time we played the big shot, we turned people against us. We had to see that when we harbored grudges and planned revenge for such defeats, we were really beating ourselves with the club of anger we had intended to use on others. We learned that if we were seriously disturbed, our first need was to quiet that disturbance, regardless of who or what we thought caused it.

    To see how erratic emotions victimized us often took a long time. We could perceive them quickly in others, but only slowly in ourselves. First of all, we had to admit that we had many of these defects, even though such disclosures were painful and humiliating. Where other people were concerned, we had to drop the word “blame” from our speech and thought. This required great willingness even to begin. But once over the first two or three high hurdles, the course began to look easier. We started to get perspective on ourselves, which is another way of saying that we were gaining in humility.

    Adapted from page 47 of the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous

    More information at; Rageaholics Anonymous

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    Passages Through Recovery


    Passages Through Recovery: An Action Plan for Preventing Relapse
    A Recovery Book

    “Abstinence from alcohol and other drugs is only the beginning of sobriety. It’s the ticket to get into the theater, not the movie we are going to see.”Passages Through Recovery

    One of the most important things we learn in recovery is that there really is a way out of all the misery–if we know which way to go. But abstinence from alcohol and other drugs is just the beginning of our journey, not our destination. And, that journey can be a rough one if we don’t know what lies ahead.

    Based on the experiences of thousands of recovering men and women, Passages Through Recovery presents an action plan for preventing relapse, on what can help us understand how recovery works and what is needed to move from active addiction to sobriety.

    Gorski’s pioneering work describes six stages of recovery from chemical dependency and offers sound advice for working through the challenges of each stage–challenges that can create frustration and lead to relapse.

    Passages through Recovery clearly demonstrates that sobriety is more than just healing the damage. “It’s a way of thinking, acting, and relating to others,”Gorski writes, “that promotes continued physical, psychological, social, and spiritual health. The skills necessary for long-term sobriety are all directed at finding meaning and purpose in life.”

    Use this book as a compass in your recovery to help you stay on course.

    About the Author:
    Terence T. Gorky, M.A., C.A.C., is a nationally recognized lecturer, an acknowledged leader in the chemical dependency and co-dependency fields, and a workshop facilitator specializing in relapse prevention, intimacy in recovery, and treating chemically dependent adult children of alcoholics. From his more than 25 years of clinical experience and research, Gorski has developed a comprehensive approach to recovery that is revolutionizing the field of relapse prevention.

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    Brain Damage & Recovery from Alcoholism


    Parts of the brain affected by alcoholism

    Thinking Impairment and Recovery From Alcoholism

    Brain damage is a common and potentially severe consequence of long-term, heavy alcohol consumption. Even mild-to-moderate drinking can adversely affect thinking functioning (i.e., mental activities that involve acquiring, storing, retrieving, and using information).

    Persistent thinking impairment can contribute to poor job performance in adult alcoholics, and can interfere with learning and academic achievement in adolescents with an established pattern of chronic heavy drinking.

    A small but significant proportion of the heaviest drinkers may develop devastating, irreversible brain-damage syndromes, such as Wernicke-Korsakoff syndrome, a disorder in which the patient is incapable of remembering new information for more than a few seconds .

    It stands to reason that thinking impairment also may impede recovery from alcoholism, although evidence has not conclusively shown this to be the case.  For example, one study looked at deficits in a patient’s learning and planning abilities-core aspects of many treatment strategies-affected recovery from alcoholism. They found that impairment was not a significant predictor of poor treatment response. On the other hand, evidence does support the possibility that brain damage, whether resulting from or predating alcohol use, may contribute to the development and progression of alcoholism.

    Thinking and Alcohol

    Most alcoholics exhibit mild-to-moderate deficiencies in intellectual functioning, along with diminished brain size and regional changes in brain-cell activity. The most prevalent alcohol-associated brain impairments affect visuospatial abilities and higher thinking functioning. Visuospatial abilities include perceiving and remembering the relative locations of objects in 2- and 3-dimensional space. Examples include driving a car or assembling a piece of furniture based on instructions contained in a line drawing. Higher thinking functioning includes the abstract-thinking capabilities needed to organize a plan, set it in motion, and change it as needed .

    Most alcoholics entering treatment perform as well as non-alcoholics on tests of overall intelligence. However, alcoholics perform poorly on neuropsychological tests that measure specific thinking abilities. For example, an alcoholic who has remained abstinent after treatment may have no apparent difficulty filing office documents correctly, a task that engages multiple brain regions. However, that same person might be unable to devise a completely different filing system, a task closely associated with higher thinking functioning.

    Tracking Structural and Functional Brain Abnormalities

    Structural and functional brain abnormalities generally are measured by non-invasive imaging techniques that provide a picture of the living brain with minimal risk to the individual.

    Structural imaging techniques, such as computed tomography and magnetic resonance imaging, are used to generate computerized pictures of living tissue. Functional imaging techniques, such as positron emission tomography and magnetic resonance spectroscopy, permit scientists to study cell activity by tracking blood flow and energy metabolism.

    Structural imaging consistently reveals that compared with non-alcoholics, most alcoholics’ brains are smaller and less dense. Loss of brain volume is most noticeable in two areas: the outer layer (i.e., the cortex) of the frontal lobe, which is considered a major center of higher mental functions; and the cerebellum, which is responsible largely for gait and balance as well as certain aspects of learning.

    Support for these results is provided by functional imaging studies, which reveal altered brain activity throughout the cortex and cerebellum of heavy drinkers.

    In addition, functional imaging often is sufficiently sensitive to detect these irregularities before they can be observed by structural imaging techniques, and even before major thinking problems themselves become manifest. This suggests that functional imaging may be particularly useful for detecting the early stages of thinking decline.

    Understanding the Basis of Thinking Impairment

    Accurate measurement of thinking abilities is challenging, and relating those abilities to a specific brain irregularity simply may not be possible with the current technology.

    Discrepancies among research findings have led scientists to develop improved thinking-measuring techniques. Using a battery of tests, Beatty and colleagues have suggested that widespread (i.e., diffuse) thinking impairment could arise from damage to multiple brain areas, each of which regulates distinct but related abilities.

    Likewise, damaging the network of brain cells that synchronizes the overall activity of those multiple areas may produce the same thinking impairments previously attributed to localized damage.

    Is Impairment Reversible?

    Certain alcohol-related thinking impairment is reversible with abstinence.

    Newly detoxified adult alcoholics often exhibit mild yet significant deficits in some thinking abilities, especially problem-solving, short-term memory, and visuospatial abilities.

    By remaining abstinent, however, the recovering alcoholic will continue to recover brain function over a period of several months to 1 year -with improvements in working memory, visuospatial functioning, and attention-accompanied by significant increases in brain volume, compared with treated alcoholics who have subsequently relapsed to drinking .

    Rewiring Brain Networks

    Reversibility of alcohol-related thinking function also may be the result of a reorganization of key brain-cell networks.

    Some researchers have proposed that such reorganization may contribute to the success of alcoholism treatment. Using advanced imaging techniques, Pfefferbaum and colleagues examined the brain activity of thinking impaired alcoholic participants during a series of tests designed to assess thinking function.

    They found that although the alcoholic subjects had abnormal patterns of brain activation, compared with control subjects, they were able to complete the tasks equally well, suggesting that the brain systems in alcoholics can be functionally reorganized so that tasks formerly performed by alcohol-damaged brain systems are shunted to alternative brain systems.

    This finding-that thinking impaired alcoholic patients use different brain pathways than unimpaired patients to achieve equivalent outcome-also was suggested in a study of patients in 12-step treatment programs.

    Functional brain reorganization may be particularly advantageous for adolescent alcohol abusers in treatment, because their developing brains are still in the process of establishing nerve-cell networks .

    Thinking Function and Alcoholism Treatment

    The exact role that thinking function has in alcoholism treatment success is unclear. Structural and functional imaging, as well as more specific thinking tests, may provide scientists with the tools needed to reveal subtle relationships between alcohol-related thinking impairment and recovery.

    Meanwhile, certain conclusions can be drawn from existing research that help to explain how thinking function may influence alcoholism treatment:

    Thinking deficits have been hypothesized to affect the efficacy of alcoholism treatment, although a clear association has not been established

    • .One view finds that thinking impaired patients may not be able to comprehend the information imparted during therapy and, thus, may not make full use of the strategies presented, thereby hampering recovery
    • Another view is that thinking functioning may not directly influence treatment outcome, but may impact other factors that, in turn, contribute to treatment success.
    • Focusing on those factors-such as improved nutrition, opportunities for exercise, careful evaluation of comorbid mental or medical disorders, and/or treatment strategies aimed at enticing the patient out of long-standing social isolation-ultimately may be more beneficial than focusing exclusively on recovery from alcoholism.

    Other types of non-alcohol-related brain damage also can produce symptoms resembling those associated with chronic alcoholism.

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