The Four Absolutes
As used by the Oxford Group and early Alcoholics Anonymous before the Twelve Steps were written
# – Absolute Honesty
Both with ourselves and with others, in word, deed, and thought.
# – Absolute Unselfishness
To be willing, wherever possible, to help others who need our help.
# – Absolute Love
You shall love the Higher Power with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind. And. . . you shall love your neighbor as yourself.
# – Absolute Purity
Purity of mind, of body, and of purpose.
These were not used in the AA program as it was thought that alcoholics could not do anything absolutely – except drink. And that an absolute demand in recovery would be too much for alcoholics; thus the suggested program of recovery.
Never-the-less the four principles – honesty, unselfishness, love and purity – are good goals to aim at; without guilt or shame if one falls short of the ideal.