Recovering addicts, alcoholics and co-dependents usually have a lot of unresolved fears. While the 12 Steps are used to get rid of or lessen fears this process can be complementary.
We all face time that more confidence would make the difference between having what you want and not having it. It may show up for you as fear, or simple lack of action. Its that thing you know you should do but are stopped for some reason.
Here are 5 Steps and Practices that may work for you –
Action cures fear. Isolate your fear and then take constructive action. Inaction–doing nothing about a situation strengthens fear and destroys confidence. Pick one thing you are putting off or avoiding, where you know fear has a grip and take at least one action today.
Make a supreme effort to put only positive thoughts in your memory bank. Don’t let negative, self deprecatory thoughts grow into mental monsters. Simply refuse to recall unpleasant events or situations. Pick a positive experience from your life (search for it if you have to), one where you felt good. Stop and think about it, relive it in your mind, recall every detail….dwell in it.
Put people in proper perspective. Remember people are more alike, much more alike than they are different. Get a balanced view of the other fellow. He is just another human being. And develop an understanding attitude. Many people will bark but it’s a rare one who bites.
Practice doing what your conscience tells you is right. This prevents a poisonous guilt complex from developing. Doing what’s right is a very practical rule for success.
Make everything about you say, I’m confident really confident. Practice these little techniques in your day to day activities. Try them and see they make a difference for you.
- Be a front seater – in church, school or next meeting
- Make eye contact – look people in the eye.
- Walk 24 % faster – you may be surprised.
- Speak up – make it a point to say something constructive or ask a question.
- Smile big – it makes a difference.
- Commit to take action today and see the difference it makes in your life.