Woman drinking glass of red wine in bar uid 1273142 Millions of people are affected by the excessive drinking of someone close. These questions can help you decide if you are involved with an excessive drinker.

  1. Do you worry about how much someone else drinks?
  2. Do you have money problems because of someone else’s drinking?
  3. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else’s drinking?
  4. Do you feel that if the drinker loved you, he or she would stop drinking, to please you?
  5. Do you blame the drinker’s behavior on his or her companions?
  6. Are plans frequently upset, or cancelled, or meals delayed because of the drinker?
  7. Do you make threats, such as, “If you don’t stop drinking, I’ll leave you”?
  8. Do you secretly try to smell the drinker’s breath?
  9. Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?
  10. Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker’s behavior?
  11. Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking?
  12. Have you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse?
  13. Do you search for hidden alcohol?
  14. Do you often ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking?
  15. Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?
  16. Do you sometimes feel like a failure when you think of the lengths you have gone to control the drinker?
  17. Do you think that, if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?
  18. Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker?
  19. Do you feel angry, confused or depressed most of the time?
  20. Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?

If you have answered ’yes’ to three or more of these questions, Al-Anon or Alateen may help. You can contact Al-Anon or Alateen by looking in your local telephone directory or by searching the web for Al-Anon Family Groups.

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