People in recovery from alcoholism, addiction and codependency are in the process of discovering and rediscovering their sexuality. Sensuality and stimulation become important for, perhaps, dormant sexual responses.
The G-spot is one of the high spots of many a love-making experience. It was discovered in 1950 but unlike most newly-discovered areas, this one wasn’t found by your typical beardy explorer with gangrene and frostbite.
It was discovered by Gynaecologist Ernst Grafenberg. He found a highly erogenous zone inside the vagina that gets bigger when directly stimulated. This discovery caused quite a sensation, as you can imagine, but his revelation has been doubted for quite some time.
The male G-spot is the prostate gland (more of that later) but the female one is still under debate by many and not all ladies seem to have one. However, it’s worth looking for so read on…
If you prefer, first find it yourself
Ladies, you can look for it yourself or have someone look for you – either way the first stimulation of the G-spot can be quite uncomfortable. Empty your bladder first and try to relax into the sensation as the feeling should pass. And make sure your vagina is well lubricated.
The easiest position to find your G-spot yourself is to squat on the loo. Insert your finger into your vagina, curving it towards your navel. Feeling around should cause the G-spot to swell and make it easier to pinpoint. The considered view states that it is around the size of a large pea.
Now, with your partner …
Now it’s time for someone else to have a go: lie down on your back, knees bent and have a small pillow under your buttocks. The rest of it’s pretty much the same as above – make sure you let your partner know when they’ve found it.
Stimulating the G-spot can cause ladies to ejaculate a small amount of white or clear fluid and, combined with clitoral stimulation, can prove to be the most satisfying of orgasms. The ‘doggy’ position is the best for G-spot stimulation as the front wall of the vagina receives more pressure this way.
Guys, well …
Gentlemen – yes, you have a G-spot too. It’s quite hard for you to find your own what with it being up your rectum but those of you supple and brave enough to try should attempt the following: lie on your back with knees bent and feet on the floor (if this proves unsuccessful, try drawing your knees up to your chest).
Using plenty of lubricant put in your thumb and press it against the front wall of the rectum. However, it’s much easier if you get someone to find it for you. Assume the same position and get your partner to insert a lubricated finger, feeling up the front wall of the rectum until they touch something that feels like a walnut.
Bingo! You can now start massaging firmly in a downward direction. Many men claim that G-spot orgasms are more intense and that rather than ejaculating in spurts, they produce a continuous stream.
So there you go: wash your hands, apply some lubricant and away you go. It’s always advisable to wash hands again if they have been inside a rectum as you can inadvertently transfer bacteria to other parts of your or their body afterwards. Don’t be shy – it’s worth a look or feel, and could change your sex life!
And, safe sex, for avoiding sexually transmitted diseases means using condoms or rubber gloves. Safe sex also means ‘no one gets hurt’.