Self-care is about setting boundaries, letting go “Some of us have so many voices in our heads, we could hold group therapy by ourselves,” said Rokelle Lerner, a popular speaker and trainer on relationships, women’s issues, and addicted family systems. This internal chorus is often composed of voices from our family of origin, voices of …∞
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I’d want to grab somebody and squeeze the life right out of them. Then somebody in one of my Alateen meetings suggested that we try safe ways to express our anger.
For Adult Children of Alcoholics / Addicts and, in fact, all people. Bill of rights I do not have to feel guilty just because someone else does not like what I d0, say, think, or feel. It is OK for me to feel angry and to express it in responsible ways. I do not have …∞
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Recovery from alcoholism, codependency and addiction encompasses getting rid of the guilt and shame of past actions. This is done in Step 4 of the 12 Step program of Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-anon, Adult Children of Alcoholic (ACOA) and Narcotics Anonymous. The list below is taken from the Step 4 section of the book ‘The 12 …∞
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Some insightful questions to examine possible relationship problems experienced by people in recovery from alcoholism, addiction, co-dependency and Adult Children of Alcoholism (ACOA). I must be “needed” in order to have a relationship with others. I value other’s approval of my thinking, feelings and behaviors over my own. I agree with others so they will …∞
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Try to adopt the following approaches to your alcoholic / addict; 1. Try to learn the facts about alcoholism and other drug addiction. Keep an open mind. 2. Recognize addiction for what it is-a disease of the body, mind, behavior, and spirit from which people can and do recover. Like other diseases, nobody really intends …∞
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It’s Not Your Fault! Hi! Are you worried that your Mom or Dad drinks too much or uses drugs? You are right to be concerned— about their safety and health, about what will happen to you, about their embarrassing you or criticizing you unfairly, about breaking promises, about driving under the influence, and about …∞
I have studied many ways to self-forgiveness and have found this to be the definitive document on the why, who, how and where of forgiveness. Recovering members of 12-Step fellowships, such as Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-anon, ACOA, Gamblers Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, may find this helpful. It is important to forgive ourselves for our own confusion and …∞
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Families and friends of alcoholics can help find hope and help in Al-Anon/Alateen Those who live with alcoholism often live in fear: fear of abuse, fear of anger, fear of trusting others. Al-Anon Family Groups (including Alateen for younger members) is a source of understanding, help, and hope to families and friends of alcoholics. The …∞
Growing Up in an Alcoholic Home For Co-dependents and Adult Children of Alcoholics. If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of the Twelve Steps, our lives will be transformed. We will become mature, responsible individuals with a great capacity for joy, wonder and fulfillment. Though we may never be perfect, continued spiritual progress …∞
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