Emotional Intelligence in Communication
Emotions are a real bugbear for people in recovery. Perhaps the most common dysfunction in recovery is emotional communication. This article may help alcoholics, addicts, co-dependents and adult children identify some strategies to help.
Most people put their best foot forward in a new work setting or when looking to attract a mate, but often stumble keeping the relationship rewarding. Emotional intelligence skills help you reach beyond initial good impressions to more meaningful long term relationships at home or work.
Keeping a relationship productive and fulfilling requires a unique skill set that, for most of us, must be learned. Conventional books and articles touting “relationship help” or “emotional intelligence at work” focus primarily on intellectual interventions for changing behavior, but overlook the source of our communication and relationship problems. Emotional memory and the perceptions we have of ourselves and others result from our first relationship known as the attachment bond. This series of articles uses new brain discoveries as a basis for developing skills that build your emotional intelligence. These skills help you keep relationships productive and meaningful at home and at work.
Most of us have problems dealing with difficult employees, co-workers, peers or the people we care about in our private lives. The following quiz can give you a quick assessment of your basic emotional intelligence skills.
Test Your Emotional Communication Intelligence
Answer “usually,” “occasionally” or “rarely” to the following questions:
- I ____________ sustain eye contact when speaking.
- I ____________ am comfortable with pauses when others are experiencing emotion.
- I ____________ sense when someone feels troubled before being told.
- I ____________ am comfortable with my feelings of sadness, joy, anger and fear.
- I ____________ pay attention to my emotions when making decisions.
- I ____________ have no problem expression my emotions to others.
- I ____________ can reduce my stress to a comfortable level.
- I ____________ enjoy laughing, playing or kidding around.
- I ____________ don’t feel threatened by disagreements.
Do not look below here until you answer the questions.
Answering “usually” to most of these questions indicates that you have a good start with emotional intelligence in your relationships.