Maturity or emotional sobriety is an essential goal of recovery from alcoholism, addiction and co-dependency.
Remember that wonderful line in Step Twelve of the “Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions” of Alcoholics Anonymous book about the results of the “exhaustive study” by eminent psychologists and doctors back in the 1950′s?
“These distinguished men had the nerve to say that most of the alcoholics under investigation were still childish, emotionally sensitive, and grandiose . . . . How we alcoholics did resent that verdict!” (p.123)
Well, emotional sobriety is a gift offered to us as a result of AA as the following brief essay reveals:
What is maturity?
a.. Maturity is the growing awareness that you are neither wonderful nor hopeless.
b.. It has been said to be the making of peace between what is and what might be.
c.. It isn’t a destination. It is a road.
d.. It is the moment when you wake up after some grief or staggering blow and think, “I’m going to live after all.”
e.. It is the moment when you find out something you have long believed in isn’t so and, parting with the old conviction, find that you’re still you.
f.. It is the moment you discover somebody can do your job as well as you can, and you go on doing it anyway.
g.. It is the moment you do the things you’ve always been afraid of
h.. It is the moment you realize you are forever alone, but so is everybody else, and so in some way you are more together than ever.
i.. It is a hundred other moments when you find out who you are.
j.. It is letting life happen in its own good order and making the most of what there is.