First Tradition Check List. The 12 Traditions of 12 Step Fellowships organize and protect as well as being part of the self-help process.
This list of questions for ‘yourself’, and perhaps in conjunction with your sponsor, may help identify behavior that promotes lack of unity with others, and/or lack of wholeness within oneself.
Tradition one:- Our common welfare should come first, personal recovery depends upon Fellowship unity. (Adapted from Alcoholics Anonymous 12 Traditions).
The questions for self examination are:-
- In my 12 step group, am I a healing, mending, integrating person, or am I divisive?
- Am I a peacemaker? Or do I, with pious preludes such as “just for the sake of discussion”, plunge into arguments?
- Am I gentle with members who rub me the wrong way, or am I abrasive?
- Do I make competitive remarks, such as comparing my home group with another or contrasting my group with another?
- Do I put down some 12 step fellowship activities as if I were superior for not participating in them, or that aspect of my fellowship?
- Am I informed about my fellowship as a whole? Do I support, in every way I can my 12 step fellowship as a whole or just the parts I understand and approve of?
- Am I as considerate of other members as I want them to be of me?
- Do I spout platitudes about love while indulging in and secretly justifying behavior that bristles with hostility?
- Do I go to enough meetings or read enough literature to really keep in touch?
- Do I share with other members all of me, the bad and the good, accepting as well as giving the help of fellowship?