“As we walked back through the hall, I, for the first time in my life, said to another human being, ‘I’m having trouble with my drinking too.’ She took me by the hand and introduced me to the woman that I’m very proud to call my sponsor.
This woman and her husband are both in A.A., and she said to me, ‘Oh, but you’re not the alcoholic; it’s your husband.’ I said, ‘Yes.’ She said, ‘How long have you been married?’ I said, ‘Twenty-seven years.’ She said “Twenty-seven years to an alcoholic! How did you ever stand it?’ I thought, now here’s a nice sympathetic soul! This is for me. I said, “Well, I stood it to keep the home together, and for the children’s sake.’ She said, ‘Yes, I know. You’re just a martyr, aren’t you?’
I walked away from that woman grinding my teeth and cursing under my breath. … But that night I tried to go to sleep. And I thought, ‘You’re some martyr, Jane! Let’s look at the record.’ And when I looked at it, I knew I was just as much a drunk as George was, if not worse. I nudged George next morning, and I said I’m in,’ and he said, ‘Oh, I knew you’d make it.’
From the book; Alcoholics Anonymous, pgs. 289-90, 4th ed.
- See also;
- What is alcoholism?
- Brief-TSF can assist people cease alcohol consumption.