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  • Self-Will Run Riot

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    Self-Will Run Riot:

    This phrase comes from chapter 5 of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous,

    “Selfishness- self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles…. So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn’t think so. Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us!”

    The only solution we know is to work the 12 Steps.

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    Cooking up Recovery

    Liz Scott Recovery Cooking

    Liz Scott Recovery Cooking

    In the Sober Kitchen by Liz Scott

    So, what exactly do we mean by a “sober kitchen?”  Although it means much more than merely removing alcohol containing ingredients from our cupboards and fridge, striving for an alcohol-free kitchen is definitely a good place to start.

    Why is this important?  Because contrary to the old wives’ tale, alcohol does not burn off in the cooking process.

    In 1989 a USDA study proved that between 5% and 85% of the alcohol added to a dish is retained depending upon the cooking method, type of alcohol used, and the amount of time it is exposed to heat.

    Indeed, the act of flambéing, or setting a pan alight, actually retains a whopping 75%!  Surprised?  I was too, but even more surprising was that addiction researchers discovered the mere smell or taste of alcohol could spark unwanted cravings in the addicted brain.

    Consequently, although small amounts of alcohol would seem to be unimportant, our brain cells never forget and are particularly receptive in the early stages of recovery.

    But isn’t there more to sober cooking than just preparing food without alcohol? Most certainly!

    Just as there is more to recovery than mere abstinence, there are important ways in which what we choose to eat, how we prepare it, and how we relate to food and share it with others can impact our short and long term recovery goals. Maybe you are early to recovery and are just learning to make healthy eating a part of your new life. A neglected body is usually in need of nourishment which only good food can provide.

    The idea for these books arose through my own battle with alcohol which forced me to take a long, hard look at my chosen career as a gourmet chef. Among other dangerous triggers I was exposed to in the culinary world, alcohol was a staple ingredient in the professional kitchen and always within arms reach.  I knew the booze had to go!

    Full story at Recovery Today

    See also;

    The Sober Kitchen: Recipes and Advice for a Lifetime of Sobriety
    by Liz Scott

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    Families

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    Stools and Bottles

    Stools and Bottles

    Stools and Bottles: A Study of Character Defects – 31 Daily Meditations
    Stools and Bottles uses the concept of a barstool (the seat and three legs) and eight bottles to represent the importance of the first four steps (of the Twelve Steps) of Alcoholics Anonymous. The author began using this concept in a prior book called The Little Red Book and it got so popular that the concept was expanded into its own book.

    The Stool

    The author begins the book by talking about the “seat” of the stool. The seat, by itself, is “as useless, incomplete, and undependable as the shaky alcoholic it upholds”. For the seat to function, it needs three legs to uphold it, just like the alcoholic needs the first three steps of Alcoholics Anonymous (A.A.) for support. The author says that the three legs represent the physical, mental, and spiritual aspects of recovery for the alcoholic.

    The Bottles

    Now the stool is complete as a support system to hold the alcoholic up, but the alcoholic must also take action for him- or herself. The author uses the visual aid of eight bottles to represent the Fourth Step of A.A., which is: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

    Highly recommended for people, the newcomer, in early stages of recovery because it explains the importance of working the Steps of the Twelve Step program.

    Bloggers comment; Worked for me.

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    @ Amazon books; Stools and Bottles: A Study of Character Defects – 31 Daily Meditations

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    Stress and Alcoholism Recovery

    The impact of stress does not cease once an alcoholic stops drinking. [Stress and Alcoholism]

    NB; This article is a bit technical, but as it covers the latest research (2013) and it provides important data about stress and alcoholism.

    Newly sober alcoholics often relapse to drinking to alleviate the symptoms of withdrawal, such as alcohol craving, feelings of anxiety, and difficulty sleeping. Many of these symptoms of withdrawal can be traced to the hypothalamic–pituitary–adrenal (HPA) axis, the bodies system at the core of the stress response.

    the effect of stress and alcoholism

    As shown in figure 1, long-term, heavy drinking can actually alter the brain’s chemistry, re-setting what is “normal.” It causes the release of higher amounts of cortisol and adrenocorticotropic hormone. When this hormonal balance is shifted, it impacts the way the body perceives stress and how it responds to it. For example, a long-term heavy drinker may experience higher levels of anxiety when faced with a stressful situation than someone who never drank or who drank only moderately.

     

    In addition to being associated with negative or unpleasant feelings, cortisol also interacts with the brain’s reward or “pleasure” systems. Researchers believe this may contribute to alcohol’s reinforcing effects, motivating the drinker to consume higher levels of alcohol in an effort to achieve the same effects.

    Cortisol also has a role in cognition [thinking], including learning and memory. In particular, it has been found to promote habit-based learning, which fosters the development of habitual drinking and increases the risk of relapse. Cortisol also has been linked to the development of psychiatric disorders (such as depression) and metabolic; biological changing process disorders.

    These findings have significant implications for recovery by the alcoholic. The recovering alcoholics is advised by Alcoholics Anonymous to; 1/ Go to more meetings, 2/ Call your sponsor, 3/ Don’t pick up a drink, 4/ Read AA literature, 5/ Talk with other members, 6/ Appeal to your Higher Power. .

    Researchers recommend treating PTSD and other illnesses and alcohol use disorders simultaneously rather than waiting until after patients have been abstinent from alcohol or drugs for a sustained period.

    Medications also are currently being investigated for alcoholism that work to stabilize the body’s response to stress. Some scientists believe that restoring balance to the stress-response system may help alleviate the problems associated with withdrawal and, in turn, aid in recovery. More work is needed to determine the effectiveness of these medications.

    Conclusion

    Although the link between stress and alcoholism use has been recognized for some time, it has become particularly relevant in recent years as combat Veterans, many with PTSD, strive to return to civilian lifestyles. In doing so, some turn to alcohol as a way of coping.

    Unfortunately, alcohol use itself exacts a psychological and physiological toll on the body and may actually compound the effects of stress. More research is needed to better understand how alcohol alters the brain and the various circuits involved with the HPA axis. Powerful genetic models and brain-imaging techniques, as well as an improved understanding of how to translate research using animals to the treatment of humans, should help researchers to further define the complex relationship between stress and alcohol.

    The AA ‘six pack’ to combat stress and alcoholism in recovery;

    • 1/ Go to more meetings,
    • 2/ Call your sponsor,
    • 3/ Don’t pick up a drink,
    • 4/ Read AA literature,
    • 5/ Talk with other members,
    • 6/ Appeal to your Higher Power. .

    You can read the  full article from NIAAA by downloading this PDF file.

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    Say No to Guilt

    Today I will say no without guilt.

    Today I will say no whenever it is in my best interests to do so.  Just as important, I will say no without feeling guilty or fearful.

    My attempts to separate from my parents were met with threats of abandonment.  As a result, I learned to avoid having my own opinion for fear of rejection. 

    Deep within me now, I feel a strong desire to become my own person, to stand free of all unhealthy attachments and discover who I am.  When I disregard my limitations and permit others to violate my boundaries, I harm myself.

    Today I will love myself enough to say no when I find it necessary.  I will reassure the child within me that those who truly love me will not abandon me when I must tell them no.  No matter what the response, today I will treat myself well by saying no without guilt and fear.

    - From “Affirmations for the Inner Child” by Rokelle Lerner

    Affirmations for the Inner Child – A Recovery Book

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    Women’s Painful Sexual Intercourse

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    Women in recovery from codependency, alcoholism or addiction may have experienced or be experiencing painful sexual intercourse. This article may help identify the problem.

    Sex is supposed to be enjoyable, but for countless women suffering from vulvodynia, that’s not the case.

    Characterized by;

    • pain or discomfort with sexual intercourse,
    • rawness,
    • stinging,
    • itching and
    • burning in the vagina or vulva,
    • vulvodynia is a common condition, but it is often undiagnosed or misdiagnosed.

    “The symptoms of vulvodynia mimic those of other, common vulvovaginal infections,” explains Christin Veasley, associate executive director of the National Vulvodynia Association in Silver Spring, Md. “Women are routinely and incorrectly told that they have a yeast or bacterial infection over and over again.”

    Vulvodynia is more prevalent than most health practitioners realize. Roughly 16% of women between the ages of 18-64 have experienced chronic vulvar pain for at least three months or more, according to a survey by Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston, Mass.

    The word “vulvodynia,” literally means “painful vulva,” which is the part of female genitalia that consists of the mons pubis (fatty tissue at the base of the abdomen), the labia (lips), the clitoris and the vaginal opening. Women who suffer from vulvodynia may experience intermittent or constant pain which can persist for months to years.

    Making matters worse, vulvodynia is difficult to diagnose. A diagnosis often occurs only after other conditions are excluded. “Vulvodynia is diagnosed when other causes of vulvar pain, such as yeast or bacterial infections, or skin diseases, are ruled out,” Veasley said. The tissue of the vulva region may appear swollen or inflamed, but more often than not, it looks normal.

    The cause of vulvodynia is unknown. This is partly because there has been a lack of research on the disorder in recent years. What is known is that vulvodynia is not caused by a sexually transmitted disease. According to the National Vulvodynia Association, potential causes include:

    • An injury to, or irritation of, the nerves that innervate the vulva.
    • An abnormal response of different cells in the vulva to environmental factors (such as infection or trauma).
    • Genetic factors associated with susceptibility to chronic vulvar vestibular inflammation.
    • A localized hypersensitivity to yeast.
    • Spasms of the muscles that support the pelvic organs.

    Currently, there is no cure for vulvodynia, but it is important for women to seek medical attention because the pain can be managed and treated. “Treatment is directed at symptom relief and includes drug therapy to ‘block’ pain signals,” Veasley said. “In women who have associated pelvic floor muscle spasm or weakness, physical therapy, biofeedback and/or Botox injections may be incorporated into the treatment plan.” Because each case is different, treatment tends to be tailored based on individual needs and responses.

    Some women find self-care measures to be helpful in alleviating the symptoms of vulvodynia. These include:

    • cold compresses,
    • anti-histamines,
    • the use of lubricants before sexual intercourse and
    • avoiding triggers like
      • hot tubs,
      • tight-fitting undergarments and
      • irritating soaps and detergents.

    It is highly recommended to work together with a health care provider who can help identify the approach that works best for each individual.

    The National Women’s Health Resource Center also has a number of consumer-oriented materials on vulvodynia available online at Healthy Woman.

    SOURCES; US., NIH Office of Research on Women’s Health. “NIH Launches Campaign to Raise Awareness of Vulvodynia, a Painful Disorder Affecting Many Women” .

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    Women Are Not Different

    alcoholic woman drinking white wineI am one of the many women that has been restored to sanity through the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous.

    I began drinking at the age of 17 years, and found alcohol to be a wonderful stimulant which enabled me to feel relaxed in any given situation. Whether alone, or in a crowd, I have always felt inwardly isolated from people and alcohol managed to break down this barrier, for brief periods of time.

    Being restless by nature, I searched always for the excitements that life could bring and alcohol was always my companion. But Alcohol was a temporary solution to my problem. Since coming to AA in January 74, I’ve learned that my problem is alcoholism. Also, that alcoholism is in the person, and not in the bottle. I drank for 20 years before stumbling through the doors of AA, mentally, physically and spiritually bankrupt. Alcohol had become a depressant rather than a stimulant. I became a social outcast through my change of personality, which caused fits of violence and deep depression.

    Laughter and happiness had long since passed in their place were feelings of utter despair and bottomless loneliness. Through alcoholism I built a wall around me, which shut me away from the realities of life and I proceeded to live in a world of fantasy. I was a stranger and nonentity in my own home. I knew I was surely going insane through my obsession for alcohol. Fortunately for me, I had a moment of truth and I rang A.A. I admitted and accepted myself as being an alcoholic. I knew that the road before me would not be easy, but I also knew I would not have to walk that road alone. Finally, I had met people who really understood me and accepted me for all of my failings.

    I was not a bad person trying to be good, but a sick person trying to get well.

    When I look back on myself, as a practising alcoholic, it’s like seeing a total stranger. Sobriety through A.A. has brought the love and respect of my family.

    But more importantly, I now have respect for myself. The A.A. Program enables me to live one day at a time without alcohol. I want sobriety as much today, as I did when I first came to A.A. I’ve also learned that the only way I can keep what I have, is to give it away, to those still suffering.

    Unity and service in A.A. is of great importance to my sobriety. The gratitude and love I feel for this fellowship cannot be measured in words. If I don’t take that first drink, on a daily basis, then each 24 hours can only progressively get better. I believe today that I have been restored to sanity through the I2 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous.

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    The Psalm of the Addict

    Needle Exchange

    The tools of the addict

    King Heroin is my shepherd, I shall always want.

    He maketh me to lie down in the gutters.

    He leadeth me beside the troubled waters.

    He destroyeth my soul.

    He leadeth me in the paths of wickedness for the effort’s sake.

    Yea, I shall walk through the valley of poverty and will fear all evil for thou,

    Heroin, art with me.

    Thy Needle and capsule try to comfort me.

    Thou strippest the table of groceries in the presence of my family.

    Thou robbest my head of reason.

    My cup of sorrow runneth over.

    Surely heroin addiction shall stalk me all the days of my life and I will dwell in the House of the Damned forever.

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    Doctors Recover Too!

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    Doctors get sick & recover

    Physician heals others as he heals himself

    It’s hard to ask for help when you’re the doctor, but being a doctor doesn’t mean you’re immune to mental illness and addiction.

    The story of a Warkworth physician illustrates this fact. But the ‘Courage To Come Back Award’ Michael Kaufmann recently received from the Canadian Association of Mental Health also shows that his story offers hope.

    Dr. Kaufmann’s predisposition and stress of daily life provoked a rapid escalation into addiction. After receiving his medical degree and opening up his own practice in his small town, his consumption of prescription drugs turned into an extreme addiction to opiates and other mood-altering substances. He thought he had betrayed his patients and colleagues, and began to neglect his marriage, patients, and himself.

    He even contemplated suicide.

    With the loss of respect from his peers, a damaged reputation and the constant fear of losing his licence to practice medicine, Dr. Kaufmann was trapped by his despair. He felt unable to trust anyone, including his wife, who had become fearful and isolated from him. His addiction to drugs had become so consuming that his colleagues had to intervene, and in 1986 he was admitted to the former Donwood Institute, now CAMH’s Brentcliffe site.

    It was difficult for Dr. Kaufmann to accept his diagnosis. As a physician, he was trained to be self-sufficient, so he believed he could help himself. Nonetheless, he learned to accept that addiction was a part of him, and through his recovery he gained a new and better understanding of himself and addiction.

    Dr. Kaufmann believed that his addicted persona didn’t belong with his doctor persona and, as a result, found it hard to share his experience early in his recovery. However, guided by his addiction physician, he became an active member of a peer recovery group and community mutual-help groups, where he learned to talk about his experiences with others and overcome his denial and shame. Eventually he was invited by his addiction physician to speak to classes of medical students about his experience of addiction and recovery.

    Specialised in Addiction Medicine

    Dr. Kaufmann went on to study addiction medicine and is certified as a specialist in the field by both the American and Canadian Societies of Addiction Medicine. In 1995, he became the founding director of the new Physician Health Program for the Ontario Medical Association in Toronto. He has written extensively about personal problems of health professionals, with the goal of shattering the myth that health professionals are immune to addiction and mental illness. He looks to help others by speaking publicly about his experiences throughout Canada and the world.

    “Dr. Kaufmann has transcended a potentially devastating disease to not only help himself, but thousands of others, especially those doctors and other health-care professionals entrusted to care for others in society,” said Dr. Peter Selby, Dr. Kaufmann’s nominator. “He is truly a healer who is healing others as he heals himself.”

    From; Northumberland Today online.

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    We Agnostics

    The last part of the walk

    A Spiritual Agnostic

    “We used to amuse ourselves by cynically dissecting spiritual beliefs and practices when we might have observed that many spiritually-minded persons of all races, colours, and creeds were demonstrating a degree of stability, happiness and usefulness which we should have sought ourselves.

    “Instead, we looked at the human defects of these people, and sometimes used their shortcomings as a basis of wholesale condemnation. We talked of intolerance, while we were intolerant ourselves. We missed the reality and the beauty of the forest because we were diverted by the ugliness of some of its trees. We never gave the spiritual side of life a fair hearing.”

    © 2001 AAWS, Inc., Fourth Edition; Alcoholics Anonymous, pgs. 49-50

    In my early recovery I often confused religion with spirituality and condemned the individual actions of religious people.

    “Look at the Irish or the Middle East and see what religion does to people.” I would say.

    Slowly but surely I began to realise that ’their’ religion was not my spirituality. As I listened to other members of Alcoholics Anonymous I began to see that;

    • I could be spiritual without being religious
    • I could be religious without being spiritual
    • I could be both spiritual and religious
    • I could define my own concept of a Higher Power and utilise the universal spiritual principles of mankind.

    This worked for me and continues to work 26 years later – One Day at a Time.

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