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Denial has many faces

Denial by alcoholics and addicts often follow distinct patterns and they can move from one to another when one is perceived to be losing its effectiveness.

The following forms of denial are evident in most alcoholics and addicts at some time.

• Refusing to face facts, to acknowledge negative consequences of using or drinking.
• Rejecting clear evidence of tolerance to alcohol
• Minimizing the facts: Minimizing negative consequences, tolerance, and so forth.
• Avoiding: Sleeping a lot, becoming socially isolated or becoming compulsive (addictive) in some other way, such as a hobby, work or eating.
• Exaggeration of others drinking in an effort to normalize one’s own use.
• Blaming someone/something else for alcohol use (a bad marriage, family conflicts, feeling depressed, work etc.), as opposed to accepting the fact that cravings for alcohol are responsible for use.
• Bargaining: Trying to limit or control either the amount or type of alcohol used or when it is used.
• Rationalizing: Making up good reasons (usually ones that will get sympathy) for drinking.
• Generalizing – Beating around the bush, being non-specific or dancing all around the subject.
• Judging others – Being smug or superior, looking down at others who are alcoholic. They tell themselves that they not that way.
• Debating or arguing – When confrontation occurs. Usually splitting hairs to avoid the reality.
• Asking questions instead of discussing a reality.
• Attacking, shouting or intimidating
• Joking or quipping
• Agreeing – in an attempt to avoid further discussion
• Complying rather than accepting reality

Denial is both insidious and destructive.

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