Step 4 Inventory Recovery from alcoholism, codependency and addiction encompasses getting rid of the guilt and shame of past actions.

This is done in Step 4 of the 12 Step program of Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-anon, Adult Children of Alcoholic (ACOA) and Narcotics Anonymous.

The list below is taken from the Step 4 section of the book ‘The 12 Steps for Adult Children’.

The different areas to be examined in Step 4 work suggested in the book above are:

  • Repressed Anger
  • Approval Seeking
  • Caretaking
  • Control
  • Fear of Abandonment
  • Fear of Authority Figures
  • Frozen Feelings
  • Isolation
  • Low Self-Esteem
  • Overdeveloped Sense of Responsibility
  • Repressed Sexuality

And from Clarence S. of Alcoholics Anonymous

The inventory is of our defects, not our incidents.

Here are the defects:

  • Resentment, Anger
  • Fear, Cowardice
  • Self pity
  • Self justification
  • Self importance, Egotism
  • Self condemnation, Guilt
  • Lying, Evasiveness, Dishonesty
  • Impatience
  • Hate
  • False pride, Phoniness, Denial
  • Jealousy
  • Envy
  • Laziness
  • Procrastination
  • Insincerity
  • Negative Thinking
  • Immoral thinking
  • Perfectionism, Intolerance
  • Criticizing, Loose Talk, Gossip
  • Greed

Not bad lists to examine if one wants to be rid of the guilt of past wrongs.

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If You Loved Me, You'd Stop! What You Really Need to Know When Your Loved One Drinks Too Much
Hope for Today
The Addictive Personality: Understanding the Addictive Process and Compulsive Behavior
The Turmoil of Someone Else's Drinking