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There are many myths associated with self-esteem, here are just a few:
Many people in recovery from alcoholism, addiction and co-dependency suffer from low self-esteem. Indeed low self-esteem may have propelled some into treatment. This article and the book may help debunk some of the myths of self-esteem and aid recovery.
- Self esteem is a woman’s issue;
- Self esteem is the same as confidence;
- Self esteem is the end goal;
- Self esteem comes from something outside of yourself, e.g., right man (or woman), lots of money, living in the right neighborhood, our parents;
- We are born with self esteem;
- Self esteem is all about how we look.
The truth is self esteem is NOT the same as confidence, we are NOT born with it, we CAN’T get it from our mothers or husbands or jobs, men and women BOTH suffer from this malady, it’s not the destination—it’s the journey.
The most compelling and truthful statement about self esteem is what I have discovered from years of hard knocks and even more years of hard work is that self esteem comes from DOING Esteemable Acts ®!
It doesn’t come from thinking or feeling; real and lasting self love comes from doing those things that genuinely make you feel good about who you are. Things like making right choices—especially when it’s hard, living an authentic life, walking through fear, going for your dreams, having a dream, taking care of your health, making you as important as you make others, having a consciousness of giving.