Test Yourself
- Have you ever thought you needed help for your sexual thinking or behavior?
- That you’d be better off if you didn’t keep “giving in”?
- That sex or stimuli are controlling you?
- Have you ever tried to stop or limit doing what you felt was wrong in your sexual behavior?
- Do you resort to sex to escape, relieve anxiety, or because you can’t cope?
- Do you feel guilt, remorse or depression afterward?
- Has your pursuit of sex become more compulsive?
- Does it interfere with relations with your spouse?
- Do you have to resort to images or memories during sex?
- Does an irresistible impulse arise when the other party makes the overtures or sex is offered?
- Do you keep going from one “relationship” or lover to another?
- Do you feel the “right relationship” would help you stop lusting, masturbating, or being so promiscuous?
- Do you have a destructive need — a desperate sexual or emotional need for someone?
- Does pursuit of sex make you careless for yourself or the welfare of your family or others?
- Has your effectiveness or concentration decreased as sex has become more compulsive?
- Do you lose time from work for it?
- Do you turn to a lower environment when pursuing sex?
- Do you want to get away from the sex partner as soon as possible after the act?
- Although your spouse is sexually compatible, do you still masturbate or have sex with others?
- Have you ever been arrested for a sex-related offense?
If you answered Yes to several of these questions you may have a need to investigate one of the fellowships listed below.
If you know someone who can answer affirmatively to several of these please direct them to the organizations below.
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Other Sexaholic 12-Step Programs
- Sexual Compulsives Anonymous http://www.sca-recovery.org/
- Sex Addicts Anonymous http://www.saa-recovery.org/
- Sexual Recovery Anonymous http://www.sa.org/
For family, partners and friends.
- Co-Dependents of Sex Addicts (COSA) http://www.cosa-recovery.org/
- S-Anon International Family Groups http://www.sanon.org/
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CO-Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous (COSLAA) http://www.coslaa.org/
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my finance has a problem i just found phone book of name of women he is seeing or has seen in the past dated 8 years and little signs but when confront says i love only you doing resheach on this subject reveals to me he has a addiction to sex pron 10 children unmarried 55 years old clubs unavailablity cold, noncommunication please help
Thanks Max,
This is one of the most honest shares I have heard from a sex addict. Thanks again.
I have been following this site through your twitter updates and really appreciate the honesty I read here. I am a recovering sex addict attending SA as well as SRA.
As an addict to whom even the word “sex” can trigger my allergy, I am wary of the name of this blog and many times am drawn to your posts for the wrong reasons.
For me I have had to accept the fact that I am not like “normal” people. Unlike the alcoholic, I never get to leave the bar. Every human regardless of gender and many inanimate objects trigger a chemical reaction which triggers the obsession of the mind. I gave years of my life and more money than you can imagine on acting out. Pornography, excessive masturbation, massage parlors and prostitution was where my disease took me. No religion (of which I was a outward member), family obligation (I am married and the father of 4) nor social responsibility could make me stop. I swore endlessly that the next one would finally fix me and I would then stop. That was not the case.
Unlike most of my fellows in recovery, I was never caught and forced to change. I was aware of the 12 steps from a brief visit to DA in the late 90′s and when my life became so unmanageable
that suicide seemed the only answer, God gently nudged to recovery.
I started with SCA but found it to liberal FOR ME in its definition of sobriety and ended up in SA as well as SRA.
I can’t really explain why I feel my life is so good now because I don’t understand it myself.
My problems haven’t disappeared but one day at a time I am actually facing them and doing something about them. My marriage is
slowly healing and I have the most rewarding relationship with my children. A 9th step ammends I made actually got me the job I now have. I attend daily meetings and share my experience so that others too may recover.
My hand are a bit tired as I’m typing all this on my blackberry so thank you for this topic and allowing me to share.
my boyfriend has a problem he just revealed to me after i found out all the women he had been talking to i dont know what to do do u think situations like this its best for the man to be alone then in a relationship
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