6 Steps to a Sexy Massage
While you were drinking or drugging you may have lost touch, (excuse the pun), with ways to excite you partner pre-sex. In recovery it’s easy to learn these new ways.
Looking for a fresh way to reconnect with your partner? Try a simple but deliciously sensual massage. “Too often, couples fast-forward to sex, which means they’re neglecting about 80% of each other’s bodies,” says Gordon Inkeles, author of The New Sensual Massage. “Sensual massage encourages lovers to be generous and free with each other, to explore parts of the body that aren’t overtly sexual.” Here, is a step-by-step guide to giving (or getting!) a totally indulgent massage.
Step 1: Make some space.
For maximum comfort, have your partner lie down on a futon mattress or pallet of blankets and place pillows under their neck, knees, and ankles.
Step 2: Break out the oil.
Besides making your hands soft and warm, massage oil reduces friction and makes it easier to knead, rub, and stroke your partner’s tired and stressed muscles.
Step 3: Create a peaceful vibe.
To avoid jarring chills, drape their naked body with sheets (uncover just the body part you’re working on). If you play music, keep it soft and slow.
Step 4: Pick a spot, any spot.
Pressed for time? Focusing on one part of their body — really focusing on it — can be even more decadent than a head-to-toe rubdown.
Step 5: Get hands-on.
To give a great massage, all you need to know are a few basic moves:
You can put any or all of these moves together in any order, depending on what your partner’s needs and how he responds to each touch.
Step 6: Focus on the feelings.
Intimate massage isn’t about perfection, so don’t worry about doing it “right.” Try to stay in the moment. The quality of your touch is more important than technique. What could be sexier than that?
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