Alcoholic & Co-dependent Roles There are several roles that alcoholics/addicts and their partners adopt with each other. Some of these are; Controller – Person who cannot allow anyone to grow or be anything other than what they want them to be Dual Personality – Person who can change “hats” at the drop of a dime, …∞
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The Power of Humility Recovery, for me, was not just getting sober. Recovery also involved finding a new spiritual philosophy. I was often reminded of the slogan; ‘The man I was, was a drinker. The man I was would drink again.’ I had to change. And false humility was my primary character defect. I had …∞
People can have many dysfunctional beliefs. Not all of these are in any one person but if there is many then that person may be dysfunctional. Alcoholics, addicts, co-dependents and Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA’s) may identify. Some of these dysfunctional beliefs are; That I can control my emotions. That I can control someone else’s …∞
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“To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means ’I can’t do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, its the realization I can’t control another human. To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is to admit …∞
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What is the definition of domestic abuse? Domestic abuse between spouses or intimate partners is when one person in the relationship tries to control the other person. The perpetrator uses fear and intimidation and may threaten to or actually use physical violence. Domestic abuse that includes physical violence is called domestic violence. Domestic abuse and …∞
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Many people have experienced or practiced abuse in alcoholic or addictive relationships. You may be an alcoholic, addict, codependent or child of a bad relationship (ACOA). In recovery these behaviors need to be addressed in the program in confidence with a sponsor or counselor. This list is not complete, but it may help you begin …∞
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Avoiding and shielding: Any behavior by the codependent covering up for, or preventing the abuser, or self from experiencing the full impact or harmful consequences of drug use. Attempting to control: Any behavior by the codependent performed with the intent to take personal control over the significant other’s drug use. Taking over responsibilities: Any behavior …∞
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Enabling is doing for others what they are capable of doing for themselves.