Enabling Addictive Behaviors – The Co-dependents Nemesis Allowing a loved one to do something may not be in their best interest, or yours. This may come as a surprise, since we usually think of making something possible for someone a good thing; but in families struggling with addiction, “enabling” means giving “help” that actually makes …∞
Stop Enabling the Alcoholic Discontinuing “enabling,” along with putting the onus for the drinker’s behavior and its consequences on the drinker. Do not cover up for them. Let them be responsible for their actions. Accept your responsibility, if any, for enabling, and then transfer 100 percent of the responsibility back to the alcoholic once you …∞
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The biggest obstacle to treatment of alcoholism is getting the alcoholic to break through the denial that is a hallmark of this condition
Alcoholism may be a disease of isolation, but it is rarely an individual problem. Understanding how "enabling" works is the first step in helping both the alcoholic and the co-dependent seek help. Enabling is any action by another person or an institution that intentionally or unintentionally has the effect of facilitating the continuation of an …∞
Enabling is the ideas, feelings, attitudes, and behaviors that unintentionally continue to foster drinking, alcohol related problems or make matters worse by not allowing the alcoholic to deal with the consequences of their alcoholism. Enabling is part of the set of behaviors practiced by codependents of alcoholism. Researchers report that the majority of partners took …∞
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Codependency is a condition that results in a dysfunctional relationship between the codependent and other people. A codependent is addicted to helping someone. They need to be needed. Enabling This addiction is sometimes so strong, the codependent will cause the other person to continue to be needy. This behavior is called enabling. The enabler will …∞
Some people, known as co-dependents, act to protect the alcoholic or attempt to make the drugging stop in ways that at first seem to disable the drinking. But, paradoxically, the effect on the addict is the opposite. What usually happens is more drinking. Enabling can take several forms, such as; Avoiding and shielding: Any behavior …∞
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Enabling is a behaviour that promotes, overlooks or allows an alcoholic to escape from the reality (denial) of their situation. Some Examples of Enabling Behaviors Denying that the drinking or drug use constitutes a primary problem. Avoiding problems and conflicts which might “cause” the dependent to use alcohol or drugs. Minimizing the problems associated with …∞
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Avoiding and shielding: Any behavior by the codependent covering up for, or preventing the abuser, or self from experiencing the full impact or harmful consequences of drug use. Attempting to control: Any behavior by the codependent performed with the intent to take personal control over the significant other’s drug use. Taking over responsibilities: Any behavior …∞
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Enabling is doing for others what they are capable of doing for themselves.
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