Today I will say no whenever it is in my best interests to do so. Just as important, I will say no without feeling guilty or fearful. My attempts to separate from my parents we met with threats of abandonment. As a result, I learned to avoid having my own opinion for fear of rejection. …∞
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Keep in mind that I’m not discussing all difficult relationships; some challenging relationships are well worth keeping. I’m specifically discussing toxic relationships, which are characterized by the following. Toxic relationships; take heavily from us without giving anything back. sap our joy as well as our mental and emotional energy. represent people who are hateful, hurtful, …∞
Most people trying to overcome an addiction soon realize that recovery is not spontaneous. It requires discipline and patience, and therein lies the problem with recovery. Addiction’s lure is its promise of immediate gratification, the quick feel-good. Being addicted means relying on immediate gratification and, as the pattern of addiction continues, our ability to delay …∞
Drug-abusers Have Difficulty in Recognizing Negative Emotions such as Wrath, Fear and Sadness University of Granada scientists have been the first to analyze the relation between drug abuse and recognition of basic emotions (happiness, surprise, wrath, fear, sadness and disgust) by drug-abusers. Thus, the study revealed that drug-abusers have difficulty to identify negative emotions by …∞
When you love someone who suffers from the disease of addiction you await the phone call. There will be a phone call. The sincere hope is that the call will be from the addict themselves, telling you they’ve had enough, that they’re ready to stop, ready to try something new. Of course though, you fear …∞
Anxiety is experienced by all people, it is a normal reaction to stress, conflict, fear, change, threat, & etc or more usually there is no apparent reason for it to occur. When a person becomes aware, conscious or subconscious, that something is wrong or different, anxiety is triggered. But remember the actual cause may not …∞
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“Many women who have reached the stage that I had reached in my drinking have lost husbands, children, homes, everything they hold dear. I have been very fortunate in many ways. The important thing I lost was my own self-respect. I could feel fear coming into my life. I couldn’t face people. I couldn’t look …∞
Understanding alcohol abuse and alcoholism can be a key step in solving drinking problems Some people worry about their alcohol use but are not convinced that they need help. Friends or relatives might express their concern–”You have a drinking problem.” But often that well-intentioned statement fails to define the issue or suggest a clear solution. …∞
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The most satisfying work……………………………. Helping Others
Image via Wikipedia Fear of losing control. ACOA’s maintain control of their feelings, their behavior, and try to control the feelings and behavior of others. They do not do this to hurt either themselves or others, but because they are afraid. They fear that their lives will get worse if they relinquish control, and they …∞
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