Alcoholic & Co-dependent Roles There are several roles that alcoholics/addicts and their partners adopt with each other. Some of these are; Controller – Person who cannot allow anyone to grow or be anything other than what they want them to be Dual Personality – Person who can change “hats” at the drop of a dime, …∞
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Today I will say no whenever it is in my best interests to do so. Just as important, I will say no without feeling guilty or fearful. My attempts to separate from my parents we met with threats of abandonment. As a result, I learned to avoid having my own opinion for fear of rejection. …∞
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The Adult Children of Alcoholics Laundry List These are some characteristics we seem to have in common due to being brought up in an alcoholic household. We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures. We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process. We are frightened by angry people and any …∞
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There are two benefits from recovery: we have short-term gains and long-term gains. The short-term gains are the things we can do today that help us feel better immediately. We can wake up in the morning, read for a few minutes in our meditation book, and feel lifted. We can work a Step and often …∞
For Adult Children of Alcoholics / Addicts and, in fact, all people. Bill of rights I do not have to feel guilty just because someone else does not like what I d0, say, think, or feel. It is OK for me to feel angry and to express it in responsible ways. I do not have …∞
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Bill W. a co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous answers questions about alcoholism in a discussion in 1960. Question; What about slips in general? You must have witnessed a lot of them. Bill W.: The subject of slips is a very large one. It takes in a lot of territory. Slips can often be charged to rebellion …∞
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People in recovery from alcoholism, addiction, ACOA and co-dependency look for new, healthy and acceptable ways to relate to other people. Life will always present us with awkward, difficult people; and unless you want to live in a Himalayan cave you will have to learn how to deal with these people. We should not let …∞
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Forgiveness is the art of releasing resentment in life and in 12 Step Fellowships. One day, long after their abusive father died, Kate asked her brother Kevin how he felt about their painful childhood. “I can’t condone how we were treated,” said Kevin, “but I’ve finally forgiven dad.” Kate was astonished. “Not me. I’m so …∞
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Many people in recovery develop a work ethic that seems to over compensate for past deeds. This usually comes from a sense of guilt about the past and will not usually be lessened until they do Steps 4 through 9. These steps have an additional function of reducing guilt and shame. Workaholism can be seen …∞