Keep in mind that I’m not discussing all difficult relationships; some challenging relationships are well worth keeping. I’m specifically discussing toxic relationships, which are characterized by the following. Toxic relationships; take heavily from us without giving anything back. sap our joy as well as our mental and emotional energy. represent people who are hateful, hurtful, …∞
Recovery from alcoholism, codependency and addiction encompasses getting rid of the guilt and shame of past actions. This is done in Step 4 of the 12 Step program of Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-anon, Adult Children of Alcoholic (ACOA) and Narcotics Anonymous. The list below is taken from the Step 4 section of the book ‘The 12 …∞
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The Language of Letting Go: Hazelden Meditation Series Our basic recovery concept in 12 Step Fellowships that never loses its power to work miracles is the concept called acceptance. We do not achieve acceptance in a moment. We often have to work through a mirage of feelings – sometimes anger, outrage, shame, self-pity, or sadness. …∞
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Shame about past alcoholism predicts relapse and declining health in recovering alcoholics This research proves the value of removing or reducing underlying shame to avoid relapse. The 12 Steps are a most effective program to address shame. Feeling shame about past instances of problem drinking may increase the likelihood of relapse and other health problems, …∞
The following are a series of statements from SRA members that describe their feelings and behaviors around their sexual addiction. Do these statements apply to you? Check “yes” or “no.” You can be honest here. I think about sex or romantic relationships most of the time. I often feel shame, regret or remorse after sexual …∞
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There are two benefits from recovery: we have short-term gains and long-term gains. The short-term gains are the things we can do today that help us feel better immediately. We can wake up in the morning, read for a few minutes in our meditation book, and feel lifted. We can work a Step and often …∞
A classic recovery book for adult children of alcoholics.
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Forgiveness is the art of releasing resentment in life and in 12 Step Fellowships. One day, long after their abusive father died, Kate asked her brother Kevin how he felt about their painful childhood. “I can’t condone how we were treated,” said Kevin, “but I’ve finally forgiven dad.” Kate was astonished. “Not me. I’m so …∞
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Many people in recovery develop a work ethic that seems to over compensate for past deeds. This usually comes from a sense of guilt about the past and will not usually be lessened until they do Steps 4 through 9. These steps have an additional function of reducing guilt and shame. Workaholism can be seen …∞
Moving from anger to forgiveness is a healing experience Adults who grew up with alcoholic parents probably have plenty to be mad about. As children, they were virtually powerless to stop the forms of abuse and neglect they often suffered. They couldn’t express their anger or outrage in a healthy manner. Instead, many either acted …∞
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