Anger helps straighten out a problem like a fan helps straighten out a pile of papers.
Some of us have temper tantrums. Like black clouds, we threaten an outburst at any moment. Other people learn to check us out for storm warnings. They want time to clear out or at least to put on a protective covering. We’ve caught them by surprise before, and they didn’t like it. Now they’ve learned to watch out – to stay on their toes when we’re around. Intimidating people, making them glad when we’re not around so they can relax, is a poor way to relate to others.
And what do the outbursts do for us? Is there a cheap sense of power or control for a few minutes? Are we advertising to the world that we’re short on coping skills? Or do we tell ourselves that letting off steam is necessary once in a while, conveniently forgetting the steam blasting in other people’s faces?
No tirade ever solved a problem. Anger is not a strategy. We don’t have the right to rain on other people’s parades. Our program can teach us better ways to deal with our anger – with honesty and fairness to ourselves and others.
Today, I ask my Higher Power for a peaceful and honest heart.
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|By Earnie Larsen: Days of Healing, Days of Joy: Daily Meditations For Adult Children Second (2nd) Edition|