Co-dependents, alcoholics, addicts and Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA’s) have a need to ‘let go’ of various parts of their lives.
Letting go is:
- A decision to take an action that will result in a significant change in your life or in the lives of others.
- Taking a risk to change the status quo.
- Releasing yourself or others from a real or perceived guilt-arousing obligation.
- Freeing yourself or others to be themselves without fear of rejection or disapproval.
- Granting to others the personal responsibility for their own lives.
What are some types of letting go?
Letting Go of Guilt:
- Decreasing the impact of guilt as a motivator for your behavior.
Letting Go of Grief:
- Accepting the changes resulting from a loss.
Letting Go of Dependency:
- Accepting personal responsibility for your life and releasing others from their sense of responsibility to you and for you.
Letting Go of Over-Responsibility:
- Handing the responsibility to others for their lives and encouraging them to accept the consequences of their actions.
Letting Go of Resistance to Change:
- Facing the changes in your life that are the inevitable result of your being a member of the human race.
Letting Go of Fear:
- Desensitizing yourself to real or imagined stimuli that induce fear in your life.
Letting Go of Anger:
- Being able to express negative feelings in a healthy way with both your rights and the rights of others being respected and protected.
Letting Go of Denial:
- Facing life’s realities with an open, straightforward approach and accepting the natural consequences of change in your life.
Letting Go of a Loved one to Death:
- Releasing your grasp on a loved one who is suffering pain and discomfort and who wants peace and respite from their suffering. It is the unselfish act of encouraging the loved one to “take care of yourself; don’t worry about us.” It is the joy and peace you gain by recognizing that your loved one will be in a better place after death.
Letting Go of Life:
- Making the final decision or choice that death is a reward for your virtuous life; to struggle on to live will result in a reduced, minimal, or non-existent quality of life. It’s the pulling away from others to prepare them to accept your death.
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