Married men often labelled as sexual addicts seek help after being discovered to have broken monogamy rules for sexual behavior through their use of

  • masturbation,
  • pornography,
  • cybersex,
  • commercial sex involvement,
  • bizarre sexual pursuits, or
  • affairs.

This study analyzed the sexual patterns and dynamics of 30 men who presented to one clinician between 2005 and 2009.

Their important differences were captured by a 6-category spectrum:

  • no sexual excess beyond breaking the spouse’s restrictive rules
  • discovery of husband’s longstanding sexual secrets
  • new discovery of the joys of commercial sex
  • the bizarre or sexual perversion
  • alternate concept of normal masculinity, and
  • spiraling psychological deterioration..

Only the men with a spiraling psychological deterioration—about 25% of the sample with sexual issues—could reasonably be described as having a sexual addiction. This group experienced significant psychological failures before the onset of their deterioration.

Another 25% were adequately defined with sexual perversion.

Half of the sample was not adequately described using addiction, compulsivity, impulsivity, and relationship incapacity models.

Note; This does not mean that 25% of men are sexual addicts or have a sexual perversion. These figures are only for men who actually sought help for a problem.

Stephen B. Levine, What is Sexual Addiction?  Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, Volume36, Issue 3 May 2010 , pages 261 – 275

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