When drinking or drugging one has sex, uses sex and does sex for various OK or not so OK reasons.

Recovery from alcoholism/addiction increases sexuality and desire.

This list can help you decide why you had sex, and why you may have sex in the future. A key question is ‘Will the reason I’m having sex enhance my serenity - sobriety?’ Or, ‘Will I be disturbed by this action?’.

This study is very important to modern society. This is especially so since the sexual revolution opened peoples minds to a broader range of sexuality and sexual expression.

The study;

Historically, the reasons people have sex have been assumed to be few in number and simple in nature-

• to reproduce,
• to experience pleasure, or
• to relieve sexual tension.

Several theoretical perspectives suggest that motives for engaging in sexual intercourse may be larger in number and psychologically complex in nature. Our first study used a procedure that identified 237 expressed reasons for having sex.

Here are the top 50 reasons men have sex;

• I was attracted to the person
• It feels good
• I wanted to experience the physical pleasure
• It’s fun
• I wanted to show my affection to the person
• I was sexually aroused and wanted the release
• I was ‘‘horny’’
• I wanted to express my love for the person
• I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
• I wanted to please my partner
• The person’s physical appearance turned me on
• I wanted the pure pleasure
• I was ‘‘in the heat of the moment’’
• I desired emotional closeness (i.e., intimacy)
• It’s exciting, adventurous
• The person had a desirable body
• I realized I was in love
• The person had an attractive face
• The person really desired me
• I wanted the adventure/excitement
• I wanted to feel connected to the person
• I wanted the experience
• It was a romantic setting
• The person caressed me
• The person made me feel sexy
• It seemed like the natural next step in my relationship
• I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex
• I wanted to keep my partner satisfied
• The opportunity presented itself
• It just happened
• I wanted to intensify my relationship
• I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions
• My hormones were out of control
• The person was too ‘‘hot’’ (sexy) to resist
• I was curious about my sexual abilities
• I wanted to improve my sexual skills
• I wanted to become one with another person
• I saw the person naked and could not resist
• The person was a good kisser
• I wanted to feel loved
• I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion
• The person was too physically attractive to resist
• It was a special occasion
• I hadn’t had sex for a while
• The person had beautiful eyes

Research From; Cindy M. Meston & David M. Buss, Why Humans Have Sex, Arch Sex Behav (2007) 36:477-507

See also Why People have Sex and Why Women Have Sex.