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When drinking or drugging one has sex, uses sex and does sex for various OK or not so OK reasons.

Recovery from alcoholism/ addiction increases sexuality and desire.

This list can help you decide why you had sex, and why you may have sex in the future. A key question is ‘Will the reason I’m having sex enhance my serenity – sobriety?’ Or, ‘Will I be disturbed by this action?’.

This study is very important to modern society. This is especially so since the sexual revolution opened peoples minds to a broader range of sexuality and sexual expression.

Historically, the reasons people have sex have been assumed to be few in number and simple in nature–

  • to reproduce,
  • to experience pleasure, or
  • to relieve sexual tension.

Several theoretical perspectives suggest that motives for engaging in sexual intercourse may be larger in number and psychologically complex in nature. The survey included heterosexual and gay men.

Here are the top reasons men have sex;

  1. I was attracted to the person
  2. It feels good
  3. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure
  4. It’s fun
  5. I wanted to show my affection to the person
  6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release
  7. I was ‘‘horny’’
  8. I wanted to express my love for the person
  9. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
  10. I wanted to please my partner
  11. The person’s physical appearance turned me on
  12. I wanted the pure pleasure
  13. I was ‘‘in the heat of the moment’’
  14. I desired emotional closeness (i.e., intimacy)
  15. It’s exciting, adventurous
  16. The person had a desirable body
  17. I realized I was in love
  18. The person had an attractive face
  19. The person really desired me
  20. I wanted the adventure/excitement
  21. I wanted to feel connected to the person
  22. I wanted the experience
  23. It was a romantic setting
  24. The person caressed me
  25. The person made me feel sexy
  26. It seemed like the natural next step in my relationship
  27. I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex
  28. I wanted to keep my partner satisfied
  29. The opportunity presented itself
  30. It just happened
  31. I wanted to intensify my relationship
  32. I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions
  33. My hormones were out of control
  34. The person was too ‘‘hot’’ (sexy) to resist
  35. I was curious about my sexual abilities
  36. I wanted to improve my sexual skills
  37. I wanted to become one with another person
  38. I saw the person naked and could not resist
  39. The person was a good kisser
  40. I wanted to feel loved
  41. I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion
  42. The person was too physically attractive to resist
  43. It was a special occasion
  44. I hadn’t had sex for a while
  45. The person had beautiful eyes

Research From; Cindy M. Meston & David M. Buss, Why Humans Have Sex, Arch Sex Behav (2007) 36:477–507

Related Reading:

The History of Sexuality, Vol. 1: An Introduction
SPIDERS: Fun Facts and Amazing Photos of Animals in Nature (Amazing Animal Kingdom Series)
For Yourself : The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality
The Bisexual Option: Second Edition