PsychCentral has put up a very good note on just who we can and cannot change. The comments section also has an interesting discussion on various types of change, who we can change, what we can change and when.
One of life’s hardest lessons to learn is that you can only change yourself.
Step one of the 12 Steps is; We admitted we were powerless over alcohol / drugs – that our lives had become unmanageable.
Some people spend inordinate amounts of time and energy upset, angry, or frustrated by other people’s thoughts and behaviors.
But to what end? You can rail against the rain or feel sanguine about the snow, but there’s not a whole lot you can do about it. Why should we, by default, believe we can change another person’s — an independent, thinking self just like us — behaviors and thoughts with just a few choice words? If you think about it for a minute, it sounds kind of ridiculous.
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