When ever I consider Steps 4 to 9 of the 12-Step program I know I am emptying my cup of memories from my drinking days.
I know that when the cup is drained I can be my true self. And, that process of draining my cup goes on continuously.
A Zen story explains;
Nan-in, a Japanese master during the Meiji era (1868-1912), received a university professor who came to inquire about Zen.
Nan-in served tea. He poured his visitor’s cup full, and then kept on pouring.
The professor watched the overflow until he no longer could restrain himself. “It is overfull. No more will go in!”
“Like this cup,” Nan-in said, “you are full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup?”
This may apply equally for recovery for Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, Al-anon, Gamblers Anonymous, Alateen and ACOA members.